Membangun Kesadaran Orang Tua melalui Edukasi Kesantunan Bahasa dalam Upaya Pencegahan Kekerasan Verbal pada Anak

Khakim Mutorik; Sukris Sutiyatno

doi:10.53863/abdibaraya.v5i02.2527

Authors

Khakim Mutorik Universitas Ma’arif Nahdlatul Ulama Kebumen, Indonesia
Sukris Sutiyatno Universitas Ma’arif Nahdlatul Ulama Kebumen, Indonesia

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.53863/abdibaraya.v5i02.2527

Keywords:

Verbal abuse, Linguistic politeness, Education

Abstract

Verbal abuse against children remains a concerning phenomenon in Indonesia, particularly within the family environment. This study aims to provide parents with education on linguistic politeness to prevent verbal abuse and support child development. The study employed a participatory action research (PAR) method with a descriptive-analytical approach, involving 16 parents/guardians at the Kenangasari Early Childhood Education (PAUD) center in Jatisari Village, Kebumen. Data collection was conducted through participant observation, in-depth interviews, and Focus Group Discussions (FGDs), utilizing pre-tests and post-tests as descriptive tools. The results indicate that (1) the use of harsh and aggressive language has been normalized as a form of discipline, with 14 out of 16 informants (88%) considering it acceptable; (2) parental understanding of linguistic politeness remains limited, with only 25% fully grasping the definition, 12% aware of the psychological impacts, and 6% able to distinguish between different forms of verbal abuse; and (3) the PAR and FGD approach was effective in raising parental awareness, resulting in an average understanding increase of 66.4%. Understanding of the definition of linguistic politeness rose from 25% to 88%, awareness of psychological impacts increased from 12% to 81%, and understanding of healthy parenting practices rose from 19% to 81%. Changes were also observed in actual practices: the frequency of shouting dropped from 88% to 31%, and making threats decreased from 69% to 19%. This educational intervention successfully transformed parental understanding and fostered healthier parenting practices. The study recommends strengthening literacy regarding linguistic politeness through sustainable community-based programs

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